Ah, summer fun, puppy love! Sometimes life turns all topsy turvy when the heart flutters at the sight of the beloved and misses a beat. The mind plays endless games raising thousands of questions and a classic case of 'he loves me, he loves me not' gains existence.
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Super Smart Sis.
Salam! I am 21 years old. I am suffering from an emotional problem that most youngsters have. During my summer holidays, I joined an academy where a 24-year-old handsome teacher stared at me all the time. Whenever I looked at him, I found him staring at me. We also chatted a bit but it was mostly about studies. I have developed a soft corner in my heart for him. I think he likes me too but since, he hasn't said anything, I am a bit confused. Maybe he is shy that's why he hasn't told me about his feelings. When the time came for me to leave the academy, he looked sad but didn't say anything. I cannot forget him and miss him all the time. Should I go to the academy and ask him whether he also has feelings for me or not? What should I do? Confused
Well, my only advice to you is, that if you have really fallen for the guy and need to know whether he has feelings for you as well or not, then you better go and talk to him. Don't just shoot the question at him, chat a bit. Gauge from his conversation whether he really is interested or not? Maybe he is the flirtatious type and might be ogling some other student now, or maybe he really liked you and would open up considering this his last chance to see you. In case he was just having a good time and is not interested, don't be dejected. Little flings like this one happen all the time. Move on. And if the case is otherwise, good luck to you then.
Hi baji. There is a boy in my college that I like a lot and he likes me too. He has trumpeted his love for me over the rooftops but the problem is, that though I like him, I don't like the fact that he tries to control me. He tells me who to meet and otherwise. If he doesn't like any of my friends, he tells me to break it off with her. When I leave the house, I have to call him up and tell him where I’m going and can only go if he approves of it. He showers a lot of love too but I don't like being controlled. I want to be able to take my own decisions. How should I tackle this problem? Chained and imprisoned
Dear emancipated! Obviously its time to put some sense into this boy. Everything seems hunky dory when one is just having an affair. When love sparkles in the eyes, one tends to accept all that comes in the way. But when reality strikes, the bitter truth emerges. Living life with a control freak is very difficult so you will have to make your choice wisely. Have a heart to heart with the boy. Tell him that you love him, but you also love your freedom. He needs to trust you that you can make your own decisions wisely. If you come to know that they were not right, then it was a lesson learned. But he has to give you some space. Try and feed this into his mind from now onwards without picking a fight. If he understands and mends his ways, then good for you. If he does not, then I advise you that if things ever get serious between you two and you decide to spend your whole life together, think before you leap into matrimony headlong. Hopefully, with regular doses of 'I need to be free' from your end, things will get better with time. Good luck!
I am 14 and I had a male teacher who used to come to my place and flirted with me. Now he had left and I am in love with him. What should I do? No one knows about this. Anon
What is with girls falling for their teachers this week?! You are what, fourteen, and I may sound like a mom, but whatever you are feeling is not love but your surging hormones. The teens are taking their toll on you . That teacher took advantage of your young age and flirted with you. What was he thinking?! Well, now he is gone and probably flirting with some other student. Use your brain, if he had been serious - which for girls at this tender age one hardly gets - he would have taken it a step further, contacted you in some way and made some progress in this relationship. Apparently, he is gone and not doing any of that. So, the answer lies bare in front of you, he was just having a ball of a time. Take my advice - move on. There will be plenty of boys you will meet that you will fall for before finally Mr Right comes along. Your tutor was just one of the fish in the pond.
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